It is hard to believe that the year 2012 is upon us. This year for many of us will offer a huge opportunity to shift both individual and collective  consciousness to a whole new level of awareness. I believe that 2012 will be about pulling in all of the projections of our unconscious and owning them for what they are, just illusions. Ok, so that sounds like a lot of esoteric mumbo-jumbo even to me. So where do we start? How do we create resolutions for the New Year that will bring us to a place of completeness?

Intention: It is no secret that the power of intention is critical to manifesting what we would like to have in our lives. The complication for most of us is that we focus our intention on things that are outside of us such as the new car, the new relationship, or the trip to Bali. Since most of the time we are not coming from a place of pure intention, those things outside of us seldom manifest. Move inward and get closer to your truth. For example, rather than asking to win the lottery, ask to be brought into a state of mind where you believe that you are already in abundance. You have to believe that you deserve abundance in order to receive it. By creating intention around the higher, more transcended states of awareness, we often find that the ‘winning’ lottery ticket has been there all along. Our expectations just got in the way. How do you ‘know’ when you are in your truth? You are not manipulating or controlling outcome, but rather trusting that you are supported. In this new paradigm of reality, intention must originate in a pure-hearted place that is not distorted by guilt or ego. Resolve to make conscious any/all transcended states of awareness such as compassion, equality, forgiveness, unconditional love, patience, harmony, impeccability, discernment, clarity, detachment, acceptance, trust, surrender, generosity and gratitude to name a few.

Breathing Room: We all have ‘to-do’ lists and deadline, for the most part self-imposed. My ‘to-do’ lists used to be legendary. I was a taskmaster of heroic proportion. Worthiness=Completion. The only problem was that again the completion was outside of me rather than within. In the last year or so I have decided to redefine completion. I am doing less and trusting more. I am giving myself breathing room. I am coming into balance between my inner and outer worlds. We can’t live our lives from rote memory. Breathing room is just that, room to breath. Don’t constrain yourself to the point that you are not able to be in the flow of life. Don’t limit your perceptual awareness to past experiences. Breathing room means that you don’t have to say, “yes” just to feel worthy. You can feel worthy saying “no” just as easily. My good friend and life coach, Stacy McKenna gave me a great idea for my ‘to-do’ list when she told me to give some of my ‘to-dos’ to the Universe. What I find happening since I adopted this new technique is that I don’t even have to write things down. I just ask the Universe to support me in these things as they come to me and whatever is relevant for me always comes back. I believe this is the new “modus operandi” for 2012. Allow spirit and your intuition to guide you day in and day out. The indigenous tribes have been doing this for thousands of years. When you get really quiet, you can hear, “Don’t forget to pick up dinner, call your father, meditation, feed the birds…” When you get really centered, you connect. That person you were thinking of calling, calls you. Someone steps in to help you with a problem unsolicited. You wake up a 2am and you just know it is time to write that blog. Resolve to be in the flow of divine timing and trust that you are complete in each and every moment. Resolve to give yourself breathing room so that you can feel the answers rather than creating them. Forgive yourself for your perceived failures.

Neutral Witness: Relationships will be our single greatest challenge in 2012. The challenge will be to understand that we can learn from every interaction, no matter how brief or how painful the encounter. Relationships are always a gift. Often the most painful experiences show us our most profound lessons. We suppress many of the emotions that we are not able to deal with on a daily basis in our unconscious minds. Sometimes these patterns are buried so deep within us that we project them on to others. So how do we ascertain what is relevant for us? At this stage of the game, pretty much everything is relevant. Just remember the golden rule. It is never about the other person. That is not to say that there are not lessons for both parties to learn. What is important however is learning our lessons, not teaching others theirs. When we stop defending our position, others get very clear, very quickly as to what they need to own. Adopting the neutral witness by detaching ourselves from the emotions of our stories and moving into a balanced state of awareness is the fastest way to learn. Don’t beat yourself up if things don’t work out perfectly. Just remember to process your feelings afterwards. Resolve to listen whole-heartedly, speak only with pure intention, learn to separate your truths from your stories and last but not least acknowledge that there are no failed relationships, just mutual opportunities to expand on our spiritual paths.

Wishing everyone a joy-filled and peace-full journey in 2012.